Finding Beau


     What happened to BEAU  --------------------------------------------  About BEAU  --------------------------------------------  My Search for BEAU  --------------------------------------------Media Stories   --------------------------------------------

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     A Message from JESSIE  --------------------------------------------The Death of KHOMET   --------------------------------------------The English Setter Breed   --------------------------------------------

     The Legal Status of a Dog   --------------------------------------------Stolen Dogs   --------------------------------------------  

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Grief is not recognised in our society today even though Grief is directly related to the Love we feel for the one we have lost. Grief is the price tag on Love.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross in her book On Grief and Grieving writes: "The death of a loved one is unmatched for its emptiness and profound sadness. An unimaginable, indescribable loss has taken place. No one can give you words to make you feel better. Your loss stands alone in its meaning to you, in its painful uniqueness.

Losses are very personal and comparisons never apply. Your loss is deep and deserves your personal attention without comparison. No one will ever know the meaning of what was shared, the deepness of the void that shadows your future. You alone know your loss.

Only you can fully appreciate the depth of the physical relationship that has ended.

You knew your loved one in a way that no one else ever did or ever will.

Your task in your own mourning and grieving is to fully recognise your own loss, to see it as only you can.

In paying the respect and taking the time it deserves, you bring integrity to the deep loss that is yours.

Pet loss, dogs, cats, birds, horsesAcceptance is often confused with the notion of being all right or okay with what has happened. This is not the case.

Most people don't ever feel okay or all right about the loss of a loved one.

Acceptance is about acknowledging all that has been lost and learning to live with that loss."

It is extremely difficult for humans to receive understanding from others when they lose a human being they love. Imagine the difficulty when a human grieves the loss of a pet.

In 2003 a kind veterinarian, Geoff Hayres, wrote to me and sent me his book "So what ... it was only a dog" to help me cope with the loss of Beau, not meaning that I would never see Beau again.

These are some words Geoff has written in the Introduction of his book:

"To someone who has lost a pet they love, the response "so what, it's only a dog" (or cat, or bird, etc.) is one of the worst things that can be said to them and yet, in our present society, it is the most frequent response received when we mention it to friends and relatives.

From early in my career, the memory of an old man, gently carrying the lifeless body of his elderly dog to his car, carefully placing him on the seat for the final journey home tugged at my heart strings and is with me to this very day.

Throughout history, our pets have been extremely important to us. In the case of the dog, "Man's best friend" reminds us how we feel. In our present 'high tech - low touch' society, I believe our pets are even more important than ever before.

Jessie, Benmore and Bandit, happy with their mum

We all need to love and be loved.

Our pets provide us with reciprocal, unqualified love, whether we are rich or poor, short or tall, happy or sad. The wag of the tail, the purr, the chirp, the neigh is always there for us, regardless of the sort of day, (or life), we have had.

We can truly BE OURSELVES with our pets. We benefit enormously emotionally and physiologically.

We can gain a sense of purpose in life from our pets.

People recover more quickly from illness when they have a pet, our blood pressure is lower.

They provide us with constant companionship in times of trouble, so that we are never alone.

So losing, or being confronted with losing our pets, can be as bad or worse than losing our very best friend and can almost be like losing ourselves. We have every reason to be devastated when our pets die."

Man has domesticated the dog so a dog is dependent on humans for food, water and shelter. A stolen dog cannot pick up the phone and call home. He tries to speak but the general attitude in society in Australia today is that a dog does not suffer grief. Afterall, it is only a dog.

The truth is that a dog who has been dearly loved and then stolen and taken away by force from everyone and everything he loves in his life .. his mum, his family, his home, his routine, his environment .. will suffer and grieve for the remainder of his life. He will yearn to be able to return to his "home".

The truth is that the fate for the majority of stolen dogs is a life full of abuse and neglect.

A dog is "Man's Best Friend". A dog will never forget a human he loves.

Bandit with his mate, Sparkie, the night before he died

This photo shows my English Setter, Bandit on one of his doggie beds. Looking at Bandit with a great deal of concern is my horse, Sparkie.

This photo was taken the night before Bandit died.

This photo shows that animals of all species love each other and they suffer grief.

All our hearts were broken the day Bandit died on 14 December 2000. However, we know where Bandit is .. he is buried here at home. I placed a garden arch over Bandit's grave and planted bougainvilleas that have now grown over this arch. The flowers look beautifu, as does a crystal that hangs over Bandit's grave to honour his life. We know that Bandit is safe and he can never be harmed again.

We do not know this about Beau !!!

Diane Stein in her book Natural Healing for Dogs & Cats writes: "Dogs and cats are bridges between humanity and all other life forms, because of their highly developed and time-honoured interspecies relationship to humanity. They are beloved and familiar; they occupy a position of trust in the human family. Their service is multifaceted and widely acknowledged.

Our lives would be much harsher, more difficult physically, were it not for the animal kingdom functioning as a sheath around us and working with us on unconscious levels.

There is no separating people from animals, or people from trees, insects and ecosystems. The dogs and cats (and birds, small animals and horses) are the closest connection we have to the natural world.

Their dis-ease and pain on all levels mirror our own, and their healing is intrinsic to our healing ourselves."

Young Beau looking at a bird, happy in his home

In Australia nothing is being done to even discourage the stealing of a dog (all animals). Stolen animals do not have a voice.

Don't you think these stolen animals deserve a right to live without abuse, to be safe, to be respected and to be loved ?

Don't you think that Beau and all the stolen dogs like Beau deserve to be allowed to come back home to their families where they belong ?

Diane Stein in her book Natural Healing for Dogs & Cats writes:

"Long ago, there was an understanding that all life is essential, no life form being less important than any other. There was an understanding that all life forms have evolved spiritually as well as physically.

In today’s society there is little acknowledgement of an animal’s feelings or wishes."

I am removing videos from my web pages to reduce the load times. There is a CBS online video about Tarra, an 8700 pound Asian elephant who formed a deep friendship with a dog named Bella.

This is another example that animals possess intelligence, sophisticated feelings and emotions. They form deep friendships of unconditional love with all species. They worry, feel stress, love and they grieve. Animals are non-judgemental, unlike the human species.

Steve Hartman from CBS News states: "Take a good look at this couple, America. Take a good look world. If they can do it - what's our excuse ?"

I believe too many human be-ings have become so SELF-absorbed that they have forgotten how to love any one other than themSELVES. Hence, their appalling attitude to grief. Animals are not even credited with the ability to grieve.

If human be-ings grieve too deeply or for too long, they are treated by other human be-ings as either being weak or in need of psychiatric help.

"Man, when he does not grieve, hardly exists ." ~ Antonio Porchia, Voces, 1943

"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal. Love leaves a memory no one can steal ." ~ From a headstone in Ireland


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